┃育兒分享┃孩子,我不要你考第一名。

分類:有感而發, 育兒點滴

關於第一名,我有好多好多的話想說。

在我國小一、二年級的時候,曾經考過一次第一名。
那個時候,我們家很窮,我爸媽很省。
但我的老爸卻花錢送了我一條七七乳加巧克力當作禮物。
我爸爸是非常嚴謹的父親,很兇很嚴格。孩子只要做錯事情不是罵就是打。
而我的小時候,很皮,做很多事情都是常常討皮痛…
所以,當我收到爸爸給我的第一份禮物,我印象非常的深刻,很難得看到我爸對我這麼好。

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但好景不常,從那時開始,我再也沒拿過任何一次第一名,一直到高二。

每次遇到考試,我都是很緊張,考不好怕被爸媽罵,成績單也不敢給爸媽看。
因為,他們希望我可以考第一名。

在學校的表現也不是數一數二,老師上課時,我也算是認真,但就是考不好。
聯絡簿上面,每一天都是我學媽媽的簽名,而父母從來沒有問我,今天的聯絡簿呢?

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父母那年代,為了養兒育女,拚了命在工作、賺錢,就是要給我們吃好的穿好的。
但,功課呢? 他們不了解功課的重要性,也不了解老師和家長之間是需要溝通的。
常常,我在學校的表現如何,他們也不曉得。
只用「成績」來認定,我到底夠不夠認真?

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我的同學,有部份是早婚的,對於孩子的成績感想,在FB很常看到。

曾經,我看到有一位媽媽說,都給你請家教還上安親班了,你怎麼還是沒有考第一名?

到底,第一名在父母心中是什麼?
我也為人母了,我自己很想知道,我到底對孩子期許什麼?

有一次,我的爸媽和蘋果西打在看電視劇時。
我媽跟兩隻說「妳們看,那個大姐姐都考第一名,好厲害」
「妳們以後要不要也都考第一名」
「這樣就可以考到北X女、台X了」

說真的,當下我聽到這些話,不是很開心。
那天,我的臉色不是很好,也跟爸媽冷戰了一個星期。

你們問我為什麼。我也想問我自己。

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每個孩子學習的程度不一樣,也許他今天跟不上大家,但無法保證他哪天會超越那些人。
不能因為孩子的功課差,就罵他念他甚至打他。

孩子都是需要適時的鼓勵。

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我有過叛逆期,在高三下學期。
我的高二到高三上學期,功課一直保持在前三名。
當然,可想而知,我父母非常的開心。
那時,我也很努力的想表現給大家看…

高三下學期,當我跟父母因為家務事鬧翻之後。
我的功課也一落千丈。
差一點畢不了業。
這是我的叛逆期。。。我的父母也因此被請到學校了解我的狀況。

孩子的成長,只有這麼一次。
我的父母,雖然沒有關心到我的童年,但他們也是為了家庭而努力賺錢。
現在,我有這個機會陪蘋果西打長大,我更應該好好的珍惜。

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但是,我不想把阿公阿嬤的期望放在蘋果西打身上。

我希望我可以協助她們課業上的進步,以及關心她們在學的狀況。

因為我覺得。
成績確實代表著一個人到底認不認真。
但是成績卻不代表這一切。

事情發生之後,我爸爸找我聊那天「第一名」的事件 。
他說,他的孩子一定要考第一名才是他的孩子…(這證明我真的不如他所期望)
但是,他希望蘋果西打不要被課業壓力打敗,所以她們可以進步就好。(長輩還是疼孫的)

雖然我不懂他是哪門子的想法。
但至少,對於孫子,他終於也認同了我的想法。

後來,我想了好久好久,在帶孩子這三年來,我一直教孩子正確的事情,還有助人為快樂之本。
我希望我的孩子,人格品性端正,道德操守觀念正確,樂於助人,並且健康長大。

這樣就足夠了。

 

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